Steady Yourself with Masculine Energy

What is masculine energy and how is it going to help me?

The core traits of Masculine energy are stability, steadiness, presence, focus, logic, reason, action, protecting, passion.

You may like to read an Introduction to the Feminine and Masculine Energies before going further.

And when we go further in it is about physicality, challenge, wanting to release, grounding, courage, staying strong and steady in a storm, emptying out, letting things go, holding space.

So how does that work in practical terms?

🔷 Deficient Masculine Energy:

When our Masculine is deficient we may feel "all over the place', pulled in different directions or wishy-washy, not backing ourself or not steady for others.

In this case we need to come back to our centre, to release and empty out, to then feel steady, focussed and present again.

That could mean taking time alone, doing one thing that you really love doing, OR that needs to be done and you really need to focus on it.

It may mean getting physical - challenging exercise, the Masculine energy loves physicality and overcoming obstacles, it helps to ground and to feel the strength that is within. 

Or it may mean standing up for yourself and saying clearly what needs to be expressed out of you.

🔷 Excessive Masculine Energy:

When our Masculine is excessive, we are trying to control everything; our world, outcomes, our emotions, others behaviours, obsessed with timelines, to-do lists and what is 'right' and 'wrong'. Logic, reason, work and action dominate.

In this case, the antidote is to mentally or emotionally empty out (eg talking, writing, feeling, crying) to make space for play, for aliveness, for surprise and the unknown, for care, love and empathy.

The temptation for the Masculine is to intellectualise and rationalise everything...if this is not balanced with the expression of a range of emotions, those emotions become trapped in the body and are often only finally expressed as rage, shut-down or sickness

🔷 Strong, Balanced or 'Fully Expressed' Masculine Energy:

Masculine Energy is strongest when steady, centred and absolutely 100% present.

Being present means really focussing, listening and rising to the challenge of trying to understand and be there for your partner or your kids or friends, whatever the storm.

It also means staying present for our own emotions and not running away with diversions. It also means taking no shit. Expressing our boundaries and saying 'no' when needed in a calm, clear and firm way.

🔷 Masculine thrives with appreciation, love and purpose - appreciation of effort, of sincere attempts, for the work put in (whether the desired outcome was achieved or not). Also love, admiration, freedom and physical affection without conditions.

Oof! That's big, right??

But hopefully helpful.

It no doubt opened some questions and ideas from you, if you'd like to reach out please do - I'd love to hear what came up for you.

If you want to learn more, there are recordings from a 1hr live discussion on how to support yourself with your own masculine energy and a guided grounding meditation in Meetup Club - all to deepen our understanding and embody these ideas and practices. 

Take some time to give your Masculine energy some love and appreciation this month. 🙏💙

Related: Open Up to Life with Your Feminine Energy

Divine Union: the Magic of Merging Feminine and Masculine Energies