Divine Union - the Magic of Merging Feminine and Masculine Energies

Over the past couple of months I’ve delved (or opened the can of worms!) into the traits and qualities of our inherent “masculine” stability and “feminine” creative energies.

We looked at what happens when either or both of these energies are unbalanced – ie deficient or excessive. For example:

🔷 Excessive Masculine / deficient Feminine energy could look like:

·      life driven by logic and “shoulds”, emotionally blocked and detached from intuition
·      too much work, not enough play, pleasure and nurture
·      wanting to control, not enough trust or going with the flow or receiving from others/Universe. 

🌸 Excessive Feminine / deficient Masculine energy could look like:

·      emotions running life, not enough steadiness or stability
·     taking on too much for others, lack of boundaries and confidence
·      everything is about pleasure (or “self-care”), avoiding responsibilities and future direction.

And yes, you could feel deficient or excessive in both.

But what would happen if these powerful, opposing and complementary forces were balanced and merged together?? ♾

Because...

What we really want is to feel balanced, healthy and alive
– expressing the best aspects of both energy traits
AND living primarily aligned to whichever is our core energy.

When this happens, you could say we experience Divine Union. And it affects and improves our health, our relationships, EVERY part of life.

It's a complete picture, a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.
Yin and Yang.

When our Feminine and Masculine energies are not only present and expressing at their best, but actually merge into Divine Union.

Divine Union is when all is right with the world.

We feel relaxed, alive, playful and strong.

And it is when our body returns to homeostasis; its natural self-healing state.

It is when life flourishes. 🌱

Below we'll look at some real-life examples…
1) Creating New Life
2) Transformational Meditation
3) Flow State
4) Reigniting Relationships

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🌱 CREATING NEW LIFE 🌱

The most obvious of all Divine Union is making a baby. A sperm and an egg literally merge and the energetic power that is released kickstarts the self-perpetuating division of cells that continues until somehow that energy has created a whole new being.

You can’t tell me there’s not still an element of magic in Mother Nature there…like, wow!! 🤩

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Another example…

✨ TRANSFORMATIONAL MEDITATION ✨

Firstly, let me say, all meditation styles and techniques are valid and useful for different people/days/times of our life.

But for the topic of Divine Union, I want to focus on the meditation type I most often practise and teach - what I call Transformational Meditation.

1) The first step is the usual emptying out, letting go, connecting to nothingness, being present and observing any mind chatter and sensations in the body – all Masculine Energy traits. 🔷

2) Once the mind and body settles and a meditative state has been achieved - note: the science here is that your brainwaves actually change (you can learn all about this in the Mojo Reset course) – then the second step is to begin to mentally rehearse how YOU WOULD LIKE to think and feel.

This relates to any situation that you would like in your life, eg perfect health, confidence, love, wealth – they’re all aligned to different emotions and thought patterns that need to be practised to be embedded.

This second step (which is often not present in other meditation styles) is the creation, desire, flow and movement of energy, the making of a new life, the being engrossed in the wants, intuitions and direction of your new life, not merely observing it – these are all Feminine Energy traits. 🌸

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A third example of Divine Union is…

🌊 FLOW STATE 🌊

If this is a new term for you, ‘flow state’ is the mental state when you are totally focussed and immersed in a task or activity (often one that you love). It is super healthy for us – mentally and physically.

Also known as being ‘in the zone’, we are ‘in-flow’ when we are completely focussed on a task, a sport, a hobby or creative project and time and space seem to warp and sometimes expand or disappear.

We forget about time, it feels effortless and we do not have many thoughts about ourself (eg no hunger, pain, tiredness), our surrounds or our performance (no more inner critic!).

So, fewer distractions, less self-judgement and ironically, it’s usually when we perform the best.

And it is great for our health! When we are in flow state our body literally cannot be in the stress response (fight/flight/freeze). Instead, it’s in its alternate, or natural, state of homeostasis which is creativity and self-healing.

Biologically and neurologically this is what's happening:

• regions of the brain communicate far more cohesively,

• dopamine increases (feelings of enjoyment and satisfaction),

• cognitive processing and creativity improve,

• the amygdala (responsible for fear and stress) becomes less active, and

• learning capacity and memory are enhanced.

Flow state is a great example of divine union between M and F energies because:

💪 the Masculine traits of supreme focus, motivation and staying present to the task, merge with

💃 the Feminine traits of creativity, flow and not caring about timelines or performance.

PERFECT! 😍

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Lastly, of course the area we all want to master Divine Union of Feminine and Masculine energies is in…

💞 RELATIONSHIP 💞

The big one! Intimate relationship is a rollercoaster of emotion and satisfaction (or lack thereof) – from the depths of vulnerability and pain, but also the only place to experience deep love, passion and soul connection.

Relationships are unsurprisingly where the state of our Feminine and Masculine energies (balanced or unbalanced) will show up at their most heightened and will literally make or break the relationship.

The most passionate, intimate and richly satisfying relationships are where this is polarity.
That is, complementary elements of difference. Remember the Yin and Yang symbol – two different parts - each with a little of the other – making up the complete whole.

THE most passionate intimate relationships are where one person has a Masculine energy core and the other has a Feminine energy core (note: not man and woman, but M core and F core energies) – AND both parties are living aligned with their core energy.

We can absolutely be best friends if we have the same core energy…but we will not have passion.

Passion dies when we get too same-same, or when we don’t value and appreciate the others unique traits.

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Here are some examples: Are we both vying for control a lot of the time? Are we both waiting for the other to express love first? Have we given up trying to understand the other one? Are we both strong, determined and work too much? Are we both soft and sensitive? Are we in competition in any way?

Are you my best friend but we have zero passion anymore? Am I frustrated that you’re not like me? Do I expect you to love me the way I want, but then don't open to accept it even when offered? Am I expecting you to be soft and open to me, but am not holding supportive space for that to happen?

The Relationship Recipe:

1) ❤️‍🩹 The best way to begin to get a relationship on track is always to come back to yourSelf.
Balance your own Feminine and Masculine energies first. (Revisit the Masculine and Feminine posts if you need to.)

2) ❤️ Then, practise living, speaking, listening, acting, sharing yourself from your core energy – even when it’s super scary and feels vulnerable and risky.
(NB: if you are one of the many, many women I meet that think their core is masculine, please note it is only a very small percentage of cis people whose core energy does not match their gender... Maybe gently examine whether femininity was celebrated or shunned in your upbringing?)

3) ❤️‍🔥 And yes, it will take practise and experimentation with your partner, but the results are worth it. Be brave!

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One person CAN change a relationship, but it will transform faster and you will learn more about yourselves and each other if you can openly communicate, be working towards the same goals and be actively supportive of each other’s efforts. 

The risk is worth it - the results are the most transformative experience on the planet, a rich, loving relationship. 💞

Related: Steady Yourself with Masculine Energy

Open Up to Life with Your Feminine Energy