Open Up to Life with Your Feminine Energy

Last month we learnt the power of presence and self-steadying with Masculine Energy 💪 This month we're opening up our nurturing, soft, playful and wild Feminine Energy! 🌸💃

**Before we go on - if you're wondering "what the hell is this 'energy' stuff?" check out the Introduction to the M/F Energies.  

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Let's dive in - what is feminine energy and how is it going to help me?

The core traits of Feminine energy are openness, flow, life, wildness, nurturing, creation, emotion, love.

...if you're tempted to dismiss Feminine energy as all soft and passive, I encourage you to read on...

She IS Mother Earth energy. Feminine Energy is of course creator energy, the bringer of life.
And "life" is the ALL of everything.

💗 Feminine energy encompasses every aspect of life. 🌱

...from the gentlest babbling brook, to a hurricane that destroys towns. From the tender kiss for a newborn baby, to the Mama Grizzly Bear that will literally tear you in half if her babies are threatened. 

Feminine energy is openness, creativity and playfulness, she is the storm, she is love and tenderness, she is also wild and free.

She does not give a shit about to-do lists or deadlines. In her essence she could not care less what "should" be done (outside of the essentials of caring for her family/tribe) or whether something is rational or logical.

So what does that look like in everyday terms?

🌸 Deficient Feminine Energy:

When our Feminine is deficient we may feel we're too much about work or obligations, all in our head, overthinking and rationalising everything. 

Too many "shoulds" and not enough desires, possibly not even knowing our own desires! We might be emotionally shut down or closed off (ie not receptive) and often desperately trying to control everything.

Contrary to what you might think - a Feminine deficiency can also show up as the "over-giver".

Our society generally idolises the utterly selfless person (often ‘the Mother’) as the ultimate feminine persona. However in its extreme state, this is an imbalance that actually lacks the primary feminine trait - to receive.

 ➡️ To rebalance an Feminine deficiency, we need to cultivate (ie make time) experiences where we can FILL UP on playfulness, joy and sensuality ...engaging all 5 senses!

It's why so many women love chocolate - it's sensual, smooth, melty, creamy, tasty, smells nice and to boot there's a 'naughty'/playful element to indulging in it!

Rebalancing will almost definitely mean creating more time for you to simply "be". 

Or, it could be "doing" something as long as the sole purpose of the activity is for your pleasure...eg enjoying the sensations of your own body, connecting with nature or creating something (art, craft, writing, cooking etc).

🌸 Excessive Feminine Energy:

When our Feminine is excessive we can be "all over the place" or "off with the fairies", not caring about (or taking on) responsibilities. All about meeting short-term desires, too much at once and missing out on the satisfaction of progressing towards a long-term goal or project.

We may be overly sensitive or needing a lot of attention - extreme mood swings or very fragile, lacking opinions, weak or lacking discernment. Emotions and/or passivity dominate.

The martyr persona can also show up when our Feminine is excessive. If she is "receiving" too much - that is, taking on too much - it could show up as taking on others problems, always worrying, criticising, jealousy or gossiping. Also, holding on (to the past or future) and not letting go.

➡️ In these cases we need to find steady ground - ensure stability and certainty exist in crucial areas of life (eg financial, or a safe household) so we can feel safe to be free and play. It would also help to re-prioritise and do some "inner work" to nurture a steady confidence and deep self-love. 💗

🌸 Strong, Balanced or 'Fully Expressed' Feminine Energy:

Feminine Energy is strongest when she feels safe and stays open  - when we are radiant, loving, playful (which can also be seductive), creating, giving and receiving love.

When she feels safe enough and courageous enough to live in this state she will open to all of life, all of her herself and all of her partner.

"All of life" includes the full spectrum of emotions btw...so don't expect it to always be fun, easy or calm with your divine feminine energy. When she is in her strength, she will sometimes be wild.

She will feel deeply, but these feelings and senses will flow through her - stay present as they are felt and they will pass like a storm always passes. 

When your Feminine core is strong you are also radiant and in touch with your intuition and the mysteries of life and the Universe.

🌸 Feminine thrives with attention (aka presence) and reassurance - and on feeling seen and understood (which is why sincere compliments are loved and appreciated).

She is filled with desires and eternally wanting to "fill up" on all of life's experiences, including deep, soul-shuddering love. But she will only do so when her fundamental need to feel safe (physically and emotionally) is met. Eg "I love all of you, I’m here for you, no matter what" is music to feminine energy's ears.

She wants to feel accepted, free and understood - or she will close down her radiance, or maybe manipulate to get what she wants, rather than being her loving, open and playful self.

😍 How did you go? How's your feminine sitting? (You too guys!)

I hope this has been helpful! It no doubt opened some questions and ideas for you. If you'd like to share post a comment below or send me a message.

If you want to go deeper on the topic there is a recording of a 1hr live discussion/lecture Open Up Your Playfulness with Your Feminine Energy and a tailored guided meditation in Meetup Club - all to deepen our understanding, balance and embody these ideas. 

Take some time to give your Feminine energy some attention, fun and reassurance this month. 💃💗

Related: Steady Yourself with Masculine Energy

Divine Union: the Magic of Merging Feminine and Masculine Energies